The Real Reason the Man Must Pursue

Photo by Elisha May

And Why It Has Nothing To Do With Playing Games…

Yes, but not because of some outdated rule or patriarchal nonsense.
It’s because of energetic law.

And if there’s one thing I’ve learned from two years in a sacred connection that’s cracked me wide open, it’s this:

Masculine energy must pursue, initiate, and claim.

Feminine energy must receive, magnetise, and discern.

We need them both healed within us, we need the balance between these energies, because these energies co-create together. But, I do feel it’s important for men to be allowed to be men, to step into their sacred masculine and women to step into their sacred feminine. Allowing and accepting all aspects of us, the sensitive and the power of both energies.

When the Polarity Flips (And You Start Chasing)…

• He doesn’t rise. He coasts.

• He doesn’t decide. He avoids.

• He doesn’t transform. He retreats.

• And you? You leak your sacred energy trying to earn what was meant to be offered freely.

It’s not about who texts first. It’s about who holds the energetic container of the pursuit.

When the masculine chooses you before he’s chosen himself, you don’t get a King.

You get a boy hoping you’ll mother him into manhood.

Masculine Energetics 101

• When a man chases, he invests.

• When he invests, he values.

• When he values, he risks.

• When he risks, he evolves.

That’s why true Sacred Union can only happen when he chooses himself… in order to earn you.

Otherwise, you’re parenting him, not partnering him.

What You Do Instead of Chasing:

• You respond (if it’s worthy)

• You receive (if it’s clear)

• You walk away (if it’s crumbs)

• You hold your frequency like a throne
  

Because you don’t chase Kings. You attract the man who must become one to stand beside you.

Reframe to Anchor:

“I’m not hard to reach.

I’m just no longer reachable by men who haven’t done the work to deserve my presence.

If he wants me, he’ll come find me.

And when he does, I’ll be right here…

not waiting… but ruling.”

My Redefinition of Marriage

Marriage, for me, has nothing to do with legal paperwork. That’s logic.

For me, marriage is an energetic contract, a sacred commitment.
It’s reverence. It’s alignment. It’s the mutual promise to hold each other through initiations, not avoid them.

I went wrong with men for 25 years because our secular culture, especially the Christian-influenced conditioning, never sat right with me.

Women were still objects. And I received the message: “If a guy’s into you, be grateful, don’t be choosy.”

But in Jewish tradition? In mythology? In my own soul’s knowing? The woman is revered.

The Divine Feminine is powerful, magnetic, and graceful.

And when she rises, the man remembers who he is.

My Truth About the Gender Wound

Men are not responsible for centuries of pain. We all are.

We’ve all played both roles, masculine and feminine, across lifetimes. Our souls have no gender.

But in this life? I chose the body of a woman. And with it came a sacred responsibility:

To rise out of the toxic feminine and into sovereignty.

Because when the women rise, the men can rise. Not into the toxic masculine we’ve seen for 2,000 years, but into the Divine Masculine that the world is starved for.

Why Courting Is Sacred And How I Knew

I always knew that courting, then marriage, made more sense than casual chaos.
But because of societal pressure, opinions, and my own trauma (abandonment, rejection, people-pleasing),

I didn’t hold those values.

I didn’t hold my standards.

Now I do.

And guess what?

The right man showed up - fast! (Or at least the one that was my catalyst, who has shown me exactly how I want to feel and be treated)

What I Know Now

You’re doing both of you a favour when you:

• Court consciously

• Honour your ROI (return on investment)

• Set clear boundaries and sacred standards

• Delay sex until you know the soul

• Get brutally honest about values, needs, compatability and red flags

Because love isn’t proved through chemistry.
It’s revealed through clarity and clarity takes time.

Final Truth Bomb:

Feminism isn’t the answer.

Feminine embodiment is.

Because feminism taught us to fight like men, but feminine sovereignty teaches us to remember who we’ve always been. To accept all aspects of ourselves.
It’s not about hating men. It’s about honouring ourselves so fully that men remember how to honour us without fear.

If You Take Anything From This:

Let the man chase.

Let him choose you.

Let him rise.

Not because you’re playing games…

But because you’re done being the one who always makes the game possible.

You’re not the reward.

You’re the reason he finally becomes the man he was born to be.

Until next time… you know where to find me 😎

Elisha ❤️‍🔥