“Child-Free, Man-Free… and Free As F*ck”
Let’s talk about something that still seems to shock people in 2025:
That a woman nearing 40 could be… happy. Without children. Or a man. Or the tidy little life society told her she should want: house, husband, 2.4 kids.
Wild, I know…
Apparently, this is still triggering. Offensive, even. Especially to other women… though I’ve had a few confused men chime in too.
Last summer, I had an interaction at a campsite in the Brecons with a man who was utterly flabbergasted that I was walking and camping on my own. The horror! I’ll spare you the full details, but the disbelief was real.
And here’s the thing: I get that for some, this might look like life didn’t go to plan.
Sometimes that’s true.
Sometimes we’ve tried.
Sometimes we’ve waited.
And sometimes, the right ingredients just never came together.
For me? Since my brother died, I’ve always known I’d only have a child within a foundation of unconditional love with a stable, emotionally intelligent, supportive man. I haven’t met him yet. Before my brother died, it was two, but I have since learned of my biological complications.
And truthfully? I have no desire to do motherhood solo. For the women who have, hats off to you. Truly. But it’s not my path. As an Empath and HSP, that would be too much for me.
So here I am, living a life that looks radically different from the script.
Spending time with my Defender.
Walking. Writing. Healing. Helping others.
Loving deeply, just not how people expect.
Working on myself. Creating freedom on my terms.
Yes, I thought I’d have ticked more conventional boxes by now. But they never quite fit. Maybe they’re not supposed to.
Maybe I’m meant to be the example of a new normal.
Spoiler alert: there is no normal!
Thanks for reading!
Love,
Elisha ❤️🔥
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* Originally written in 2022, before I realised sacred union wasn’t just possible… it was my destiny. Please see Sacred Union/ Twin Flame blogs for more info. In 2025, I now know I am ready for sacred union. Not because I’m missing anything, but because I’ve built something too beautiful not to share.
