Marriage Isn’t a Cage - It’s a Sacred Container

Reclaiming the Devotion, Energy, and Truth of Sacred Union

I used to think I’d never get married.

Not because I was against love, but because the model I’d been shown was one of control, compromise, and emotional starvation. A cage. A trap. But over the past few years, my soul’s been whispering a different truth.

That true marriage, the kind most people never witness, let alone embody, isn’t a box to shrink into. It’s a sacred container. One built not on pressure or duty… but on energy. Devotion. Mutual remembrance. Unconditional love and support.

And no government, religion, or Instagram highlight reel gets to define it for me. Because I know what sacred union really is. It’s the merging of missions. It’s being met in the fires of life and rising higher together. It’s one soul saying to another: I see you. I choose you. Not just today, but again and again, in every season of growth.

For years, I didn’t want to take another man’s name. Marriage didn’t feel safe. I’d worked so hard to free myself from the systems and shadows that silenced me, I couldn’t imagine giving that up. Plus, I wanted to be able to grab a bag and run, if I had to… Hmm… some unhealed trauma there, so I looked into that!

But over these past three years (especially in the stillness of being single, and I can’t recommend some decent single time enough, to gain perspective and clarity on your life, yourself, and past experiences). I’ve had many talks with my soul. And we agreed:

I do want this experience. I do want to be seen, supported, and held. I do want to co-create, from a place of sovereignty, not survival or obligation. Not for the photo ops. Not because my clock is ticking. But because I’m ready to be witnessed in the wildness and the quiet.

Since my brother died 13 years ago, I haven’t had a consistent, stable masculine presence in my life. I’ve anchored myself. Rebuilt myself. I’ve done the healing that many spend lifetimes avoiding.

But now? I’m ready. To soften. To share. To be supported. To choose sacred union, not as a fairytale, but as a living, breathing, energetic vow. I want to feel the fire of partnership. To be met in my mission. To know I can lean back and be held, because the masculine energy in my world is anchored, present, and true.

So no, I won’t settle for performative weddings, pressure timelines, or societal boxes.

I’ll only marry when it’s true. When it’s soul-sanctioned. And during my Twin Flame Initiation, it was a full body yes for this guy, I had never experienced anything like it in my life, I had flashfowards, energetic expansion, the lot. I remember saying to my parents and friends: “I think I’ve met my husband…” So fingers crossed, after he has had some healing, sorted out legal and logistical stuff, he’ll be ready to embrace the potential sacred union between us. And if it’s not him, I have all the information I need for when it is the right guy.

And when it is the right guy… it won’t feel like losing freedom. It’ll feel like coming home.

Until next time…

Stay sovereign, stay sacred, stay electric.

Elisha 🔥